The Process of Healing a Broken Heart....Letting Go and Letting GOD

  Redeemed Couch Talk

 We may think that a break-up makes us feel less than or that we may never find "The One" there are things we can do to get through to get through this process--there's that word again PROCESS...

Break ALL ties with your ex (unless you have children read *note):

Emotional vulnerability and loneliness will lead to poor decisions--you may end up back in that relationship forgetting what led you leave in the first place, so let's start with pictures, teddy bears, letters old text messages and deleting his number out of your phone...you are probably say, but I know his number by heart--that may be true, but guess what...that means you have to consciously dial the number, but in that moment you will have to address the thoughts of "What am I doing?" and, if those thoughts don't come to pass in your mind you need to actually seek profession help because you have
now entered the emotional roller coaster zone. But if you have come to a place where you can end that call then you are on your way to healing now no one said that this PROCESS was going to be easy.  It will be a grieving process and you will feel like wearing black, but you have to start somewhere because holding on to those things will not get you any closer than you are today.  Morn over it, talk yourself through it, but remember how you got there in the first place and then proceed to move on to the next level GOD has planned for you. “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” ~ John 16:33 

                                            

 

Sleeping with your ex is not an option at this point because sex complicates things, whether or not you are deciding to reconcile try to abstain from sex as this PROCESS gives you a clear view of that individual without the illusions of the wedding gown, the house, white picket fence, two cars, the children, and the dog...CANCEL THAT!!! Focus and glorify your Father in heaven and ask HIM for strength as HIS Word states  "Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul." ~ 1 Peter 2:11 You are probably asking yourself "I'm not a foreigner or in exile this is the United States or we aren't in the times of the Old Testament--and you are absolutely right, but as a believer you are a foreigner because we are not of this world (John 17:16)
 GOD loves it when we are obedient to HIS Word and stand on it firmly without doubt and with both feet planted, so extend your hand and accept the hand of JESUS who is constantly interceding on your behalf to our Father I guarntee you that you will see GOD manifest himself in your life and things will turn around in your heart, mind and spirit.....I cannot wait to read your testimony.  Be Blessed Woman of the Redeemer!!

Remember that YOU ARE REDEEMED!!!  JESUS paid the price..."In Your unfailing love You will lead the people you have REDEEMED. In Your strength You will guide them to Your Holy dwelling." ~ Exodus 15:13

                                                                  

Next step is to renew our minds so that we can get back to LIVING!!! 

                                                                   The Garden
                                                            BeBe and CeCe Winans

*When you have children the key is to Co-Parent.  Co-Parenting means working together for the good of your child(ren).  If you get to a place where you can be friends through this level of parenting then that's the more better, but as I stated in the beginning "Break ALL ties with your ex" shut down any advances or broken promises of reconciliation and if you get to the point of mending make sure they are on your terms...get spiritual counseling and don't give in fight what GOD truly promises for your life--things can only turn around with GOD in the center of it all.

 References:

 http://www.ehow.com/how_8972_co-parent.html